Social Networks

Social connection “is the experience of feeling close and connected to others. It involves feeling loved, cared for, and valued, and forms the basis of interpersonal relationships.”

Lack of social connections can affect a persons mental and physical health:

The most common cause of lack of social connections is loneliness and isolation could lead to depression, anxiety, and low self-esteem, heart disease, stroke, and weight loss. 

 Feeling disconnected from family and friends leads to a feeling of unloved, undervalued, and not belonging.   

Here are some ideas to find social connections:

Find someone with the same illness as you. They will understand what you’re going thru.

Don’t keep it to yourself, tell others about your chronic illness.

Be open to letting someone help you again, this will give you someone to talk to.

Get help with daily household tasks.

Join a support or online discussion groups.

Join an exercise or yoga class, whatever interests you.

Make a coffee date with a family member or friend.

Be persistent, don’t give up. It may take a while, but it will be worth it.

Be open to experiencing new relationships and having new people in your life.

Have fun in whatever you’re doing. 

We were created to have social connects with each other.  It is important that people find family, friends, or even strangers to interact with. In my own experience, when I had a car accident and subsequent surgery I was isolated from my family and friends. It was very hard especially when I use to be active. Everyone was going through their lives, going to school, work, parties, but I was stuck at home which became my prison. But I refused to stay in that situation for any longer than necessary. 

The first place I wanted to go to was my church; it was like a rebirth to be with friends again. It was so encouraging to see that people were worried about me and very happy to see that I was recovering. 

It’s important to know that you’re not alone. It may appear that way because people may be too busy to call or visit but it doesn’t mean they don’t care. There are many other ways to find people to connect with, but it’s important to have an open mind and the desire to build a relationship with others.

You Are Enough

Maya Angelou says, “You alone are enough, you have nothing to prove to anybody!”

 

What do you see when you look in the mirror? Do you feel like you’re enough? There have been times in my life when I’ve felt worthless and alone. As I child I remembered being told “you’re no good and you come from nothing good” I was always being criticized and ridiculed; called name like a midget, and dwarf. When I looked in the mirror, I saw someone who’s too short, ugly and unlovable. When you are subject to verbal abuse in your life, you start to believe it, and it stays in your mind. It can be emotionally crippling.

 

 I spent many years as a child and an adult trying to prove that “I’m Enough” I was a people pleaser and conflict avoider just so people would like me. I had very low self-esteem, I didn’t like myself. But I eventually came to the realization that “I’m good!” Whatever bad things that happened to me in the past cannot be changed. I must move forward and create a different future. 

 

There are many things you can do to get rid of this negative mindset. A few are listed below: 

 

Replace negative thoughts with good thoughts and affirm it. 

 

Look in the mirror every morning and shout “I’M ENOUGH!” 

 

Say it repeatedly!· Say affirmations! Repeat at least 5 times daily. 

 

Believe in yourself and your worth.

 

Get rid of negative self-talk.

 

There as some you must always remember: 

 

1) God doesn’t make mistakes, you’re here for a purpose.

 

2) You have to fulfill your destiny. 

 

3) You don’t have to conform to what anyone thinks you should be or do.

 

4) You’re worthy of love, you’re acceptable

 

5) Always be yourself. 

 

It is not easy to change your mindset, but you can do it, just like I did. Today I don’t ask myself if I’m enough. When I look in the mirror, I see a confident, courageous, and competent (I call it the 3 C’s) woman and I’m so proud of myself. I know this can be the case for anyone who believes it.